8 Ways Screens Are Ruining Your Family’s Life

Ways Screens Are Ruining Your Family's Life

For her new book, The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, Catherine Steiner-Adair EdD — a clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard, a school consultant, and a therapist in private practice — interviewed more than one thousand children between the ages of 4 and 18 to find out how technology was impacting their relationships and their social and emotional lives. What Steiner-Adair discovered was neither surprising, nor comforting: Technology is becoming a kind of “co-parent;” too much screen time is impeding childhood development; and parents’ obsession with their devices is harming communication with their children and even fracturing families.

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8 Keys to Keeping Your Marriage Strong

8 Keys to Keeping Your Marriage Strong

On very rare and special occasions, we will see a couple celebrating their 50th anniversary. So many things have to fall into place for a couple to make it that long together that it can nearly be considered a miracle only God could have bestowed. Not only does the couple have to fight off all the sharp, poison-tipped arrows of life, but just the simple fragile nature of the human body makes it very hard for both to make it that far. It is pretty safe to say that, on their wedding day, most couples visualize being that pair that grows old so gracefully together. Statistics say that the odds are stacked against them, but it is a victory that can be won. It requires great passion from both in the marriage, and it demands a steadfast resolve to be the exception and not the rule. Here are 8 key ingredients to creating a strong, robust marriage that can go the distance. (Read the rest)

My little champion :)


This is a GO PRO video of Amira swimming across the neighborhood pool (25 yards) on her first try. All the bubbles are from me breathing out so I could see her but the camera was on my head so you see lots of bubbles 🙁

Every 46 year old father needs a 4 year old daughter.

60 ways to make your marriage rock

Saw this on facebook, thanks Munizha 🙂

1. Always love each other, even when it’s hard to
2. Never go to bed angry.
3. Go on regular date nights
4. Hide notes in secret places
5. Go to bed at the same time
6. Listen to music together-share ear-buds
7. Buy him gifts he will love
8. Revitalize the romance with intimate dates
9. Wear shirts that tell the world you love your spouse
10. Praise your spouse to other people
11. Read a marriage devotional
12. Sleep in his t-shirts
13. Renew your vows privately with whispers and memories
14. Renew them publicly with cake and bubbly
15. Go away together at least once a year

For Women Only
16. Hang pictures of the two of you around your house
17. Make his favorite dessert
18. Make sex a priority
19. Spend time apart occasionally
20. Learn to enjoy something he loves
21. Surprise each other
22. Meet him at the door
23. Text each other from across the room
24. Set reminders on your phone to remember him/her throughout the week
25. Call him right now and tell him you appreciate him

For Men Only
26. Leave work on time and come home early
27. Engage every day in meaningful conversation
28. Compliment each other
29. Take one day a month to make your spouse your total focus
30. Argue fair: avoid these words “you always” and “you never”
31. Kiss every day
32. Find tangible ways to serve your mate without complaining
33. Forgive quickly
34. Be honest.
35. Get on the same page: plan your budget together
36. Look your best as often as you can
37. Guard your marriage
38. Laugh together
39. When you are together-BE TOGETHER (take a break from phones, technology, etc)
40. Tell her she’s pretty, especially when she’s not feeling it

Both
41. Make each other breakfast in bed
42. Do her chores for her
44. Get a couple’s massage or host your own privately
44. Dance together-soft music (both of you alone) or rocking music with the kids
45. Exercise together- hikes, bike riding, etc
46. Choose not to be annoyed by an irritating behavior/disappointment from your spouse
47. Thank your spouse often even for the least reason or gesture
48. Lay in bed together and stare into each other eyes, without talking
49. Learn something new together-take an art class, cooking lessons, etc
50. Leave a sweet comment on the Facebook wall
51. Support each other’s goals
52. Bring her flowers/gifts (even when she says they are too expensive)
53. Wear something your spouse loves
54. Share furniture-sit in his lap
55. Fight for your marriage
56. Make a point to eat dinner together most days of the week.
57. Never let your spouse feel like they come second place to your career or any other thing.
58. Talk about your dreams and aspirations. Be supportive of each other and dream big together!
59. Maintain a united front as your motto: Meaning- “Me and you against the world.
60. Speak well of your spouse.

Don’t Miss Your Life

My dear friend Kerri Roberson showed this video last weekend in a leadership training. And it made me think of all the men I know who don’t see their kids as much as they desire due to work constraints. I’m most proud of my brother who over the years has made improvements in this area, I’m thankful for learning how to get out of that trap from a man named Joe Hadachek and extremely thankful for a man named Charlie Ragus who made it even possible.

But the video still makes me sad 🙁

Everything matters all the time

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Interesting story: about 2 years ago my friends and I were playing in the front yard (this was back in Orlando.) We were playing near a tree that had been damaged by Hurricane Charlie in 2004 and ever since then it sort of just leaned. I remember it was a Persimmon tree. As we’re playing around near it I jumped up on it and pretended to climb it when I noticed that it was starting to bend over and creak. So I got this idea and told Asie to watch as I “tear this tree to the ground”.

I pulled and I pushed and tore the tree to the ground because the roots were rotten.

But Asie thought I really ripped the tree to the ground.

Yesterday morning (2 years after it happened) in a completely random statement Asie looked at me and said “remember when you tore that tree out of the ground?”

It’s a funny story until you pause to think about the significant of your children watching every move you make. I would much rather have Asie think I’m Superman able to pull trees up by the roots than to hero worship some pro athlete on tv. 2 years ago it was just a fun experience. Today I realized that the things that happened in the past have a lasting effect – good or bad.

Remember my friends, everything matters all the time.

5th Way of Getting Paid

The image that captures my concept of fulfillment.  Big nature, small people and beauty.

The image that captures my concept of fulfillment. Big nature, small people and beauty.

Do whatever needs to be done (as long as no one gets hurt and it’s legal) to be fulfilled as you get paid. We recently earned an all expense trip to Kuaui through Advocare that allowed us to do just that. We all have 3 options:

  • Go through life wishing we could do things that are truly fulfilling.
  • Wait until we retire to do fulfilling things.
  • Get involved in an opportunity where fulfillment is part of the culture.
Shake, Smile and Say

Shake, Smile and Say. Teaching little first graders at Hanalei Elementary how to change the world.

Ron Reynolds and Aliya seeing each other after 6 years.

Ron Reynolds and Aliya seeing each other after 6 years.

Amira's first helicopter ride.  10 minutes in!

Amira’s first helicopter ride. 10 minutes in!

The loves of my life.

The loves of my life.

Deb and Michael W. Smith, amazing artist.  Interestingly enough Deb created the lyrics to a song called Friends!

Deb and Michael W. Smith, amazing artist. Interestingly enough Deb created the lyrics to a song called Friends!

Rules for Affluent Parents and Productive Children

I’m pretty sure I’m breaking all known copyright laws but this is very good stuff. It’s a list of 10 things that you need to be aware of as it relates to passing wealth on to your children in a way that empowers them to be producers. As opposed to entitled brats! (my words)  You can click on the image so you can read the writing.

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By the way this is from a book I posted about last week called The Millionaire Next Door.